Living in Utah and being a Mormon, dating and marriage looks a little different then it would to other cultures and maybe out side of Utah. Most of my views on dating and marriage are the same as my parents and are similar to most of the people around me. My views on dating are similar to the views of my religion. I don’t go on any dates until I am at the age of 16. I think that this is a good stage for everyone in my opinion because you’re usually mature enough to act like an adult and handle some of the drama and stress that might come with dating. I think that when you go on dates that you should start out by just going on group dates until your actually looking about getting serious with someone. I think it just makes it safer and even more fun at times to group date, especially while in high school. A good date for me would be doing something where you would be able to talk to your date and find out a little more about them. Over dinner is usually a great time to talk, and then doing an activity. Going to a movie for a date I think is kind of boring, unless the movie is at someone’s house because then you can talk and interrupt as much as you want. In my opinion you also shouldn’t steady date in high school. Dating the same person over and over again kind of loses the purpose of dating, especially in high school. I mean dating is so that you can find out what kind of people you like to be around and want to be with. When your only getting to know one person you don’t find out what everybody else is like and if you might like that type of person better. The time I think that people should start dating seriously is when they want to settle down and get married, and usually that’s not what you’re thinking about in high school. I think that dating the same person also ties in with “going out” with someone, or being “together” or in other words being boyfriend and girlfriend. To me there really is no point in high school or even in junior high to have or do those kinds of things. I think its crazy when all these junior high kids have boyfriends and girlfriends when there really is no point cause they are probably just going to break up anyway because its not exactly likely that they will get married in the future.
So for me, when you finally find the one you want to be with the rest of your life you get married to them, of course. In my religion, and in my views when you want to get married, you get married in what we call a temple. Then you have kids and raise a family together. What I have learned from my parents is that even though you’re married; the guy is still courting the girl. So in other words your still go on dates and you still have that alone time where you can enjoy one another’s company without having kids crawl all over you. I think that when you getting married to that you should be married the rest of your life to that one person.
My views on dating and marriage actually fit in pretty well with the culture around me. Because most of my views are based off my religion and what I believe, and because most of the population where I live have the same religion, our views are pretty similar. In high school there actually seems to be a lot of going out and being boyfriend and girl friend, but there is also a lot of group dating and just hanging out. Most of the kids also have the same view on being 16 before you start dating. And it sometimes puts people that don’t agree with that rule at a disadvantage cause most of the people that live here are in agreement with the 16 rule. So people that don’t agree just have to sit and wait for the other person to turn 16 if the want to go on a date with them. Marriage here is pretty close to my idea of marriage too. Most people that are married have kids, and I mean lots of kids usually, hello, we live in Utah. But you will see married couples go on dates still and go out for an evening. Even little old couples and they are the cutest. Usually marriages in my culture last a long time, even until the spouse dies.
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